Summer, the best time of year, right?! I typically love summer, it is a great time for swimming and vacations and spending lazy days without the stress of my daughter’s school schedule and activites…Summer Time and the living is easy!
The only problem with this is that co-parenting puts a little stress on those happy emotions typically related with Summer. In the state of Texas the non-custodial parent (non-primary parent) typically gets more consecutive time during the summer and this can be really hard on me because I miss my sweet girl so much. (I am the primary/custodial parent in our custody agreement).
The last few years I have typically felt more down starting around March when my ex-husband communicates the summer schedule which he has the ability to be completely in charge of without any input from me. I then have very little time to scramble and set up some sort of vacation or activities for me and my daughter to do in the time he allows me to have her during the summer which changes every year due to his schedule.
While this situation is hard and frustrating, one positive of the co-parenting situation is that my time with my daughter is so treasured and intentional and positive due to the fact that we don’t get to be together all of the time. She and I appreciate each other so much more and our mother/daughter bond has grown exponentially the older she has gotten and I am very thankful for that. For example our Caribbean Cruise this June was so fun, we had matching outfits and just the best time together.
School starts for Miss B in the middle of August so the weeks leading up to school starting we will have some uninterrupted time again and I am so looking forward to it!
My daughter saved me in every way a person can be saved and I saved her too leaving a miserable/abusive (verbally, financially, and emotionally) relationship showing her what it means to be a strong, independent woman. I truly believe our mother/daughter relationship and bond would have suffered so much if I had stayed in the miserable situation that was my marriage. As hard as my marriage and divorce was, I am so thankful that I have the wonderful blessing of my daughter.
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